25 Ways To Embrace Your Feminine Energy (Part 1)

Women are sensual, fluid, and emotional. Men are strong, driven, structured, and decisive.

Not sure where we got the idea that being feminine was weak and old-fashioned, but somewhere down the line, women got hard-edged and mechanical... including myself.

Exploring the first 5 key feminine energy traits, here’s what I gained from embracing the soft era:

Sensing

Smell, touch, taste, sight, and sound.

Why sensing is soft:

Sensing is a powerful healing tool.

In her book, Gracefully, Valerie Ramsey reminds us that “Sensuality enriches the soul as much as the body and mind.”

What happened when I embraced sensory experiences?

Surely I was too busy to smell the roses?

To humour my mentor, I added swimming to my daily routine as a priority.

I’d arrive grumpy and complaining about the weather, my latest impossible project at work, and the price of bananas.

After floating, swimming underwater, and sauna bathing— the calming blanket of water felt soothing…delight flooded my being. Can’t be that easy, can it? I was disappointed this worked — Maybe it was a fluke? Maybe the effect would reduce over time. But, no, especially in times of stress, water immersion and people-watching (my God, fun), worked it’s magic.
Reset nervous system, get-happy tool…bagged!

I got excited — extending the sensing to perfume, essential oils, and dark chocolate… (two squares! Not the whole bar). But yeah…I like this!

Walking in nature listening to music is like liquid gold pouring into my spirit, I’m not sure what’s better, the oxygen of nature or my fave new playlist.

Next, I tried out (free) guided meditations using the Insight Timer app, turning my work breaks from freakouts to refreshing relaxation opportunities. Basking in the sun or breeze, massages, watching fave shows, lotions, and candlelit salt baths.

Maybe I’m overdoing it?

I feel so good!

Grinning like a lotto winner. I ignored the glimmers of guilt, like, Should I be doing this? Wait…

When did my love of sensing go astray? Did the dystopian conditioning start at school?

The masculine school blazer was incredibly dark and depressing.

You know what?

I’m buying flowers for myself from now on, just because!

Nurturing

Relate, acknowledge, appreciate, nurture.

Why nurturing is important:

To bond, heal, create, relate, and empathise is the feminine form of nurturing, forming important bonds between us all.

(Nurturing from the male perspective is to protect, provide, fight for a cause, solve problems, take action, compete).

What happened when I amplified my nurturing spirit?

By total accident, I joined a women’s relationship group: an awesome teacher with workshops on nurturing skills provided a safe space to practice. The program shared LRVAU: Listen, Relate, Validate, Acknowledge, and Unpack feelings. Providing emotional support became so affirming and rewarding that it merged into who I am.

Providing hope, emotion, encouragement, and empathy healed past wounds. Finally feeling seen and heard, I made some awesome lifelong friends.

Nurturing rocks! I’m a fan.

Emotional Expression

Free expression of feelings, vulnerability.

Why emotions are important:

Previously, suppressing and denying my emotions caused IBS and anxiety, sleepless nights, isolation from others, and inauthentic interactions.

What happened when I set emotions free?

I started by picking a feeling to describe bodily or emotional sensations. At first, only expressed how I felt in a journal. Warm, cold, comfortable, confused, stuck, graceful, happy, bored, embarrassed, angry, awkward, stressed, or overwhelmed—I explored my inner world.

Journaling every day, gradually unfolded into expressing myself in the moment…verbally (shock horror!)…without shame (gasp!).

This is how emotional expression found its way into my reality. Expressions fell out of me in an awkward mess at first. Either too explosive or too robotic—to be fair, massively awkward for all involved! Now that I’m more refined, I notice that expressing how I feel undiluted forms an unbreakable bond and gains a lot of respect.

In many ways, it’s blown things up and allowed pieces of life to re-prioritise and settle into a new form.

Cheating / uncaring men are suddenly not aligned with me anymore…what a great side effect! (Funnily enough they can’t handle expressive emotion).

The deeper connection resulting from these expressions is something I’m enjoying right now, which is super nice.

I've come a long way, and I will keep expressing my emotional experience to my heart's content. There’s no way I’m stopping now.

The thing is, I can’t even stop myself crying anymore. (Even in the middle of supermarkets, you’ll find me in the freezer aisle with soggy sleeves from wiping my eyes).

I’m told crying releases control and lowers cortisol — so something to try out.

Fluid

Fluid, stormy, emotional, passionate. It flows from moment to moment like the waves of the ocean.

Why being fluid is important:

Flowing from moment to moment is a by-product of following your emotions and being aware and expressive in a healthy, mature, self-accountable, and positive way. It’s normal and feminine for your emotions to rise and fall like waves rather than the more even line of emotions a man experiences.

On the bad days, the pressures of life had me spinning so fast I felt like a heavy rock in a string bag.

I was super stressed and living in survival mode.

I wished I could live more lightly and be less overwhelmed.

What happened when I gave Fluidity a go?

From slowing down speech, breathing, and movement and practicing mindfulness, I purposefully slowed down. Why? I decided to no longer subscribe to societal pressure to rush around or do things all the time.

Instead, I practiced patience. I took naps. Reducing my schedule and asking for help…tips from my mentor. They offered the phrase: ‘I could use your help with… [insert thing]. This one simple phrase reduced a mountain of stress in my life.

Moving to a more relaxed city and creating a minimalist home and lifestyle allows me to breathe and feel calm and centred.

Being slow, fluid, and patient feels like medicine for the soul.

Creative

Creation breathes new life into things. Beauty; aesthetic, internal and spiritual.

Why creativity is important:

Feminine creativity can take in something and transmute it into something else. Expressing yourself through creative activities underpins mental health. Creativity has been proven to relieve stress and anxiety. Creativity helps lessen the shame, anger, and depression felt by those who’ve experienced trauma.

Previously, I’d buried lost childhood dreams of studying art; unfavourable circumstances and feeling unworthy played a role. The pressure to keep working to survive felt more pressing. Yet I kept returning to drawing and couldn’t entirely let it go.

What happened when I returned to Creativity?

One day circumstances allowed me to take time off working. I got to live my dream for two years — transmuting things became an Art Diploma!

I got so immersed in painting, drawing, writing, and sculpting—the Art School couldn’t get rid of me! It sent me into a flow state and made me smile. Drawing and sculpting were so interesting that I lost all sense of time.

It felt grounding and playful. I had to permit myself to play. To ignore comments I’ve heard in the past: like “Art is a waste of time” and “Why would you do that?” and make the choice to do things just because they bring me a sense of joy and even (sometimes) a little bit of pride.

Sometimes writing is my favourite; sometimes art, photography, fun selfies, creating business ideas, or painting. The creative choice is irrelevant, and the output is not a big deal.

I discovered it's better to enjoy the process of creating something; the fun unfolds from there.

The next five feminine energy traits are here!

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