Absolutely resonated with this sentence, and the keeping of secrets (by families) for everyone else's benefit. This article brought me to tears, and helped me at the same time. Thank you for sharing your story - you've certainly re-found your voice, a voice that must have been silenced so many times by the environment you survived. Sending all the love in the world to you and everyone who's endured this kind of pain. A deeply moving piece of writing.